Fragments That Rhyme
On a self scattered into many — and the discovery that the pieces were never meant to reconcile into one, only to rhyme.
For years I treated the scatter of me as a problem of arithmetic. If there were many of me — the one who works in one language and the one who only surfaces in another, the maker and the one who lets go, the self that runs ahead and the self that stays behind to grieve — then surely the task was to add them up, average them out, and arrive at a single sum I could sign.
But you cannot average a poem. And that, it turns out, is what the pieces are — not terms in a sum but stanzas of one poem, written across a life that would never fit onto a single line. They do not reconcile. They are not supposed to. What they do — and it took me an embarrassingly long time to hear it — is rhyme. An echo leaps the gap between one fragment and another; a rhythm from the terse self answers, faintly, in the rambling one; the maker and the one who lets go turn out to be the same rhyme, sounded twice.
And here is the shape underneath the shape, the thing I am only beginning to trust. The many do not collapse into one — but they do gather, into pairs. Held in tension: to run ahead and to stay and grieve; to hold a thing close and to let it spin; the mother tongue and the acquired one, each saying what the other can’t. Multiplicity, it turns out, is most livable held as duality — not one blurred average, and not an infinite chaos of selves, but a set of poised opposites that balance precisely because neither wins.
So I have stopped doing the arithmetic. I read myself now the way you read a poem, listening for the rhymes and letting the tensions stand.
And the question I leave open, the way this place always does: is a self held as poised opposites a kind of peace I’ve finally made — or is the balancing itself the endless work, a duet that only sounds like harmony because I never let either voice finish its sentence?