The Tide Knows When
On the body's own tides, the long way home to it, and timing the effort to the rhythm instead of forcing it flat.
The year I spent coming back into my body taught me something the striving years never did: the body keeps tides. Not moods to be managed — tides, real ones, a rhythm of rising and falling energy as ordinary and unarguable as the sea. There are hours the water is high and the work is easy, and hours it goes out and there is simply less shore to stand on, and no amount of willing makes the tide come in on command.
For most of my life I treated my own rhythm as a flaw to be overridden. Flatten the curve. Same output every hour, feelings be damned — push through the low tide as if it were laziness rather than weather. It half worked, for a while, the way holding your breath half works. And then the body sent a bill I couldn’t argue with, and the shore fell away, and I had to learn to sail my own waters instead of paving them.
Coming back was not a straight line. It was Odyssean — the long way home, all detours and setbacks and small returns, a voyage that takes as long as it takes and cannot be hurried by wanting. You mend at the speed the mending happens, and the only real craft is learning to read the water: to spend the high tide boldly, to let the low tide be low without calling it failure, to time the push to the rhythm instead of flattening the rhythm to the push. Form follows life, even here — the true shape of a day’s work follows the body’s real tides, not the flat schedule I’d have imposed on it from above.
There is a quiet spirit of adventure in it, once the grief settles — a curiosity about your own weather instead of a war against it. Ah, the tide’s going out; what does this hour want. The body stops being a machine that keeps breaking and becomes a sea you’re learning to sail.
So I read the tides now, and I hold the question they never answer: is timing the work to my own rhythm the wisdom I fought for years to learn — or is it a gentle surrender I’ll one day regret, on some far shore where the ones who forced themselves flat got further, faster, than the one who waited for the water?